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["McLay, Molly Margaret" <>]

I'm going to run this by my student peer educators to get some of their thoughts... but my initial feeling is, if the guy had asked "do you want to do this?", what would have happened? He didn't get her consent. Even though she didn't say no, he never asked her if she wanted to. Consent is the presence of a yes, not the absence of a no. Perhaps she didn't feel violated, and every person's reaction to an event like that differs, and it's okay if she doesn't want to call it rape -- it's her choice and her right. But from the standpoint of our prevention program (and student code) is, if there's not a clear, freely given yes, then it's sexual misconduct. I do think that it's a really interesting piece exploring how hard these concepts are in reality, how complex, and it could be a great teaching tool to use with students to unpack the issue of consent. Just my two cents, but I'll be asking for feedback from my students.

Molly M. McLay, MSW, LSW

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University of Illinois Women's Resources Center

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On Sep 17, 2014, at 9:07 AM, "Brett Sokolow" <> wrote:

I am apparently old enough now, Wade, to see history repeat itself.  Katie Roiphe wrote a whole book about this, and the Internet has many responsive articles that may help you to generate discussion on this on your campus if you wish.  My take is that the article you posted manages to be less victim-blaming than Roiphe in its tone and more conflicted about the emotions inherent in these situations than Roiphe acknowledged with her “suck it up and deal” approach.  

Regards,
Brett A. Sokolow
Brett A. Sokolow, Esq.
Attorney-at-Law

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From: <Felty>, "Wade P." <>
Date: Wednesday, September 17, 2014 at 9:07 AM
To: "" <>, "" <>
Subject: TotalSororityMove article

Colleagues,

 

One of my student peer educators showed this to me and doesn’t know what to make of it or how to respond to the things it talks about. Have you seen this? What would you tell someone?

 

http://totalsororitymove.com/is-it-possible-that-there-is-something-in-between-consensual-sex-and-rape-and-that-it-happens-to-almost-every-girl-out-there/

 

 

Wade

 

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