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Sometiimes written sarcasm is tough to pull off....please be very careful with this...

Gail F. Hutchison
Outer Banks Hotline, Inc.
'Until the Violence Stops'



 

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Date: Thu, 11 Nov 2010 11:39:15 -0500
Subject: [RAINNet] "Stop Blaming the Victim" sticker for April

 

Good morning, friends!

I'm designing another bumper sticker that says "Stop Blaming the Victim."
Behind those words are a background of victim-blaming statements. This
sticker will be teal, for Sexual Assault Awareness Month - the statements
blame the victims of sexual assault for what happened to them.

Some of the statements are direct quotes I've heard from survivors, or those
who blame them. I've tried to make the statements "other-blame" as well as
"self-blame," from both a male and female perspective, from hetero and
GLBTQ. This is what I have so far:

1. I'd never put myself in that situation.
2. She shouldn't have been drinking.
3. He shouldn't have been taking drugs.
4. Why did I agree to go up to his room?
5. I shouldn't have agreed to let him in.
6. I should have said "no" more forcefully.
7. You shouldn't have led him on like that!
8. She has low self-esteem - that's why she gets herself in these
situations.
9. It's not that big of a deal.
10. Why was she wearing that outfit?
11. She had sex with him before.
12. He made out with the guy - what did he expect would happen?
13. She flirted with her all night - what did she expect would happen?

What other (short) victim-blaming statements should I put on the sticker?
What else have YOU heard that blames victims of sexual violence?

If I use your suggestion, you get four free stickers once they get printed.
I'll also be reprinting the purple "Stop Blaming the Victim" sticker with
statements that blame victims of domestic/dating violence.

Many thanks - let's keep raising our voices until the violence stops!

Ben Atherton-Zeman: Feminist, actor, husband

Presenting a one-man anti-violence play "Voices of Men." Clips available at
<http://www.voicesofmen.org/> http://www.voicesofmen.org, booking info at
978-897-3619.

Quote of the month, November 2010: "If y ou rape a child who is a stranger
and get caught, you will probably go to jail. If you rape your own child
and get caught, you will probably get custody." - Garland Waller,
<http://www.smalljustice.com> http://www.smalljustice.com. See Garland,
myself and many others at the Battered Mother's Custody Conference in Albany
this January 7-9, <http://www.batteredmotherscustodyconference.org/>
http://www.batteredmotherscustodyconference.org/

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