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[Kim Zimmerman <>]

COME ON!!!!!! :(
 
 
"The move" is supported by who??? The "men" who believe girls "really want 
it" even when they say no???
 
I think that is degrading to women and supports those __________who choose to 
believe rape doesn't happen.
 
I think ANYONE who is raped knows the difference! If they come forward saying 
they were raped, they were raped no questions need to be asked to verify if 
they are sure it wasn't just regretted sex. Someone who "regrets" sex is NOT 
going to report it, or make a scene about it, they won't be blameing the guy 
if the they had control of their feelings and actions and just went farther 
than they wanted (if they consented and were able to consent). Rape is where 
they are not giving consent or able to give it but the guy has sex with her 
anyway...
 
I see it more from the other end, more women are trying to convince 
themselves they were not raped, when in deed they know they were.
 
There is a HUGE difference in "regretted sex" and "rape"....and everyone who 
experinces either knows which it was, and should not have to justify their 
feelings...
 
 
 
Kim Zimmerman Advocacy Services Coordinator Sexual Assault Program of 
Beltrami, Cass & Hubbard Counties PO Box 1472     1819 Bemidji Ave NW Ste 3
Bemidji MN 56619 218-444-9524 
24 hour crisis line 800-708-2727
FAX: 218-444-9527

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>  Subject: Rape vs. "regretted sex"> To: 
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>  Date: Mon, 12 Nov 2007 18:56:52 -0500> > On my campus, there has been a 
> move toward encouraging > women to make a distinction between rape vs. 
> "regretted > sex." I am wondering if that is occurring on other > campuses 
> and what people on this listserv think about > pushing such a distinction.> 
> > > > Judy Pehrson> Director> The Women's Center> Franklin & Marshall 
> College> P.O. Box 3003> Lancaster, PA 17604-3003> 717-291-3956> 
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