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["Langford, Linda" <>]

Just want to clarify that my earlier suggestion about focusing on what TO do 
was referring specifically to the proactive, skills-building piece (and an 
assumption that not all concerning breakup-related behaviors would 
necessarily be a law/policy violation, although the example given was). I 
didn't mean to imply that we shouldn't also educate about behaviors that 
violate laws/policies and both use and support students' use of the full 
range of remedies. I agree with everyone who has emphasized the importance of 
both/and.

Linda Langford

Education Development Center, Inc. | Learning transforms lives.
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From: Alice Vachss 
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Sent: Thursday, September 12, 2013 4:53 PM
To: 

Subject: Re: healthy and unhealthy breakups

Brett is correct. New Jersey is (I believe) the only state to specifically 
enact legislation making revenge porn a felony. And California is in the 
process of making it a misdemeanor. But one of the arguments against such 
legislation in many states is that the conduct is *already* a crime under 
existing more general laws such as anti-harassment and anti-stalking laws.



Speaking as someone who has spent much of her career as a sex crimes 
prosecutor, I do think it is important to consider reporting to the police, 
requesting a restraining order and criminal prosecution as among the options 
a victim may consider, and offering advocacy against resistant systems if 
that is her choice. I have always admired the work done on campus as creating 
*additional* and often more suitable options. But I would hate to think that 
means excluding the more traditional ones.



Alice Vachss



----- Original Message -----

From: Brett Sokolow

Sent: 09/12/13 12:20 PM

To: Kelley, Melissa

Subject: Re: healthy and unhealthy breakups


It's a crime in many jurisdictions, and tortious in all.

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On Sep 12, 2013, at 3:18 PM, "Kelley, Melissa" 
<<mailto:>>
 wrote:

I’m interested in seeing what others have to say on this topic.  I am not a 
lawyer, but I do not believe it is illegal to share pictures that someone 
gave to you on those sites that exist for posting your exes pictures.  I 
think is a great way to discuss sexting and how whatever you do, like taking 
and sharing naked pictures can be used in ways to hurt you after the fact.  
There are several sites where people can share pictures of their exes and 
while I don’t dispute its wrong;  I’m not sure it is illegal either…. I do 
know that there have been cases where exes have put naked pictures up with 
contact info for the person and they then are contacted by people looking for 
sex, etc.  I am sure though, like as the case on this campus, it would be a 
violation of campus policies….









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Sent: Thursday, September 12, 2013 2:24 PM
To: Moxley, Kathy; Harrington, Rebecca; Sapc Listserv 
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Subject: Re: healthy and unhealthy breakups










It's also a crime. Speaking of which, it definitely seems like stalking 
belongs in this discussion as well.





Alice Vachss











----- Original Message -----





From: Moxley, Kathy





Sent: 09/12/13 11:17 AM





To: Harrington, Rebecca, Sapc Listserv 
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Subject: Re: healthy and unhealthy breakups









I would go beyond this being an "unhealthy breakup".  This is potentially a 
violation of Title IX and the school's student code under sexual exploitation.









Kathy Fahl Moxley, ACSW, LCSW




Director, Women's Outreach Center




Coordinator, Sexual Assault Response Team




University of Oklahoma




900 Asp Ave., Room 247




Norman, OK 73019




405-325-5352




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From: <Harrington>, Rebecca 
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Date: Thursday, September 12, 2013 11:14 AM
To: "Sapc Listserv 
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Subject: healthy and unhealthy breakups









Hi all,
















Reaching out for some help based on a request I received from one of our 
college’s counselors at my prevention committee meeting this morning. She 
said she is receiving more clients who are dealing with “unhealthy breakups”. 
The example she gave was the posting of naked pictures of an ex-partner on 
social media sites.

































Has anyone addressed these kinds of behaviors from the perspective of 
healthy/unhealthy breakups?
















Anyone interested in collaborating on this topic?
















Rebecca Harrington

































Health Educator
Office of Health Education
Counseling, Health and Wellness Center
SUNY College at Oneonta
Oneonta, NY 13820
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(607) 436-2074 (f)

































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