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- Date: Thu, 12 Sep 2013 18:20:29 -0400
Brett is correct. New Jersey is (I believe) the only state to specifically enact legislation making revenge porn a felony. And California is in the process of making it a misdemeanor. But one of the arguments against such legislation in many states is that the conduct is *already* a crime under existing more general laws such as anti-harassment and anti-stalking laws.
Speaking as someone who has spent much of her career as a sex crimes prosecutor, I do think it is important to consider reporting to the police, requesting a restraining order and criminal prosecution as among the options a victim may consider, and offering advocacy against resistant systems if that is her choice. I have always admired the work done on campus as creating *additional* and often more suitable options. But I would hate to think that means excluding the more traditional ones.
Alice Vachss
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From: Brett Sokolow
Sent: 09/12/13 12:20 PM
To: Kelley, Melissa
Subject: Re: healthy and unhealthy breakups
It's a crime in many jurisdictions, and tortious in all.
Brett A. Sokolow, Esq.President & CEO, The NCHERM Group, LLC.Executive Director, NABITAExecutive Director, ATIXA610.993.0229www.Atixa.orgSent from my iPhone
On Sep 12, 2013, at 3:18 PM, "Kelley, Melissa" <> wrote:
I’m interested in seeing what others have to say on this topic. I am not a lawyer, but I do not believe it is illegal to share pictures that someone gave to you on those sites that exist for posting your exes pictures. I think is a great way to discuss sexting and how whatever you do, like taking and sharing naked pictures can be used in ways to hurt you after the fact. There are several sites where people can share pictures of their exes and while I don’t dispute its wrong; I’m not sure it is illegal either…. I do know that there have been cases where exes have put naked pictures up with contact info for the person and they then are contacted by people looking for sex, etc. I am sure though, like as the case on this campus, it would be a violation of campus policies….
Melissa A. Kelley, MS, CHES
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Sent: Thursday, September 12, 2013 2:24 PM
To: Moxley, Kathy; Harrington, Rebecca; Sapc Listserv (),
Subject: Re: healthy and unhealthy breakups
It's also a crime. Speaking of which, it definitely seems like stalking belongs in this discussion as well.
Alice Vachss
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From: Moxley, Kathy
Sent: 09/12/13 11:17 AM
To: Harrington, Rebecca, Sapc Listserv ()
Subject: Re: healthy and unhealthy breakups
I would go beyond this being an "unhealthy breakup". This is potentially a violation of Title IX and the school's student code under sexual exploitation.
Kathy Fahl Moxley, ACSW, LCSW
Director, Women's Outreach Center
Coordinator, Sexual Assault Response Team
University of Oklahoma
900 Asp Ave., Room 247
Norman, OK 73019
405-325-5352
405-325-7493
From: <Harrington>, Rebecca <>
Date: Thursday, September 12, 2013 11:14 AM
To: "Sapc Listserv ()" <>
Subject: healthy and unhealthy breakups
Hi all,
Reaching out for some help based on a request I received from one of our college’s counselors at my prevention committee meeting this morning. She said she is receiving more clients who are dealing with “unhealthy breakups”. The example she gave was the posting of naked pictures of an ex-partner on social media sites.
Has anyone addressed these kinds of behaviors from the perspective of healthy/unhealthy breakups?
Anyone interested in collaborating on this topic?
Rebecca Harrington
Health Educator
Office of Health Education
Counseling, Health and Wellness Center
SUNY College at Oneonta
Oneonta, NY 13820
(607) 436-3540
(607) 436-2074 (f)
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- RE: healthy and unhealthy breakups, (continued)
- RE: healthy and unhealthy breakups, Langford, Linda, 09/12/2013
- Re: healthy and unhealthy breakups, Moxley, Kathy, 09/12/2013
- Re: healthy and unhealthy breakups, alicevachss, 09/12/2013
- RE: healthy and unhealthy breakups, Kelley, Melissa, 09/12/2013
- Re: healthy and unhealthy breakups, Brett Sokolow, 09/12/2013
- RE: healthy and unhealthy breakups, Otterson, Lynn, 09/12/2013
- Re: healthy and unhealthy breakups, Holly Rider-Milkovich, 09/12/2013
- RE: healthy and unhealthy breakups, Underwood, Jennifer, 09/12/2013
- RE: healthy and unhealthy breakups, Kelley, Melissa, 09/12/2013
- Re: healthy and unhealthy breakups, Alice Vachss, 09/12/2013
- RE: healthy and unhealthy breakups, Langford, Linda, 09/12/2013
- healthy and unhealthy breakups, alicevachss, 09/12/2013
- Re: healthy and unhealthy breakups, Brett Sokolow, 09/12/2013
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