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[Holly Rider-Milkovich <>]

Hello all:

I am wondering if we could return to the thread about skill-building re: "healthy-break-ups" or promoting "positive break-up behaviors"  Thanks so much, Kat Monusky, for pointing us towards FWV's "Start Strong" materials--great stuff!  Has anyone out there yet done this kind of skill-building work on a college campus?  I am realizing that it could be a very important addition to our "healthy relationship" curriculum.  

We currently do skill-building in our workshops with U-M students on how to give or not give consent clearly and enthusiastically, and we do skill-building on how to respond to hearing a "no" or hearing no response or hearing/seeing/perceiving unclear messages. These components are a complement to the "ask for consent--here's how" training. 

I'd love to hear/see more about your approach if you are doing this on your campus.

HRM

On Thu, Sep 12, 2013 at 3:20 PM, Otterson, Lynn <> wrote:

I had saved this recent article on this topic that is rapidly growing in importance because revenge porn is growing: http://www.cnn.com/2013/08/29/opinion/citron-revenge-porn/index.html?eref=igoogledmn_topstories

 

 

Lynn Otterson

Director

Women’s Center

University of Illinois Springfield

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From: Kelley, Melissa [mailto:]
Sent: Thursday, September 12, 2013 2:18 PM
To: ''; Moxley, Kathy; Harrington, Rebecca; Sapc Listserv (),
Subject: RE: healthy and unhealthy breakups

 

I’m interested in seeing what others have to say on this topic.  I am not a lawyer, but I do not believe it is illegal to share pictures that someone gave to you on those sites that exist for posting your exes pictures.  I think is a great way to discuss sexting and how whatever you do, like taking and sharing naked pictures can be used in ways to hurt you after the fact.  There are several sites where people can share pictures of their exes and while I don’t dispute its wrong;  I’m not sure it is illegal either…. I do know that there have been cases where exes have put naked pictures up with contact info for the person and they then are contacted by people looking for sex, etc.  I am sure though, like as the case on this campus, it would be a violation of campus policies….

 

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From: [mailto:]
Sent: Thursday, September 12, 2013 2:24 PM
To: Moxley, Kathy; Harrington, Rebecca; Sapc Listserv (),
Subject: Re: healthy and unhealthy breakups

 

It's also a crime. Speaking of which, it definitely seems like stalking belongs in this discussion as well.

Alice Vachss

 

----- Original Message -----

From: Moxley, Kathy

Sent: 09/12/13 11:17 AM

To: Harrington, Rebecca, Sapc Listserv ()

Subject: Re: healthy and unhealthy breakups

 

I would go beyond this being an "unhealthy breakup".  This is potentially a violation of Title IX and the school's student code under sexual exploitation.

 

Kathy Fahl Moxley, ACSW, LCSW

Director, Women's Outreach Center

Coordinator, Sexual Assault Response Team

University of Oklahoma

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From: <Harrington>, Rebecca <>
Date: Thursday, September 12, 2013 11:14 AM
To: "Sapc Listserv ()" <>
Subject: healthy and unhealthy breakups

 

Hi all,

 

 

Reaching out for some help based on a request I received from one of our college’s counselors at my prevention committee meeting this morning. She said she is receiving more clients who are dealing with “unhealthy breakups”. The example she gave was the posting of naked pictures of an ex-partner on social media sites.

 

 

 

 

 

Has anyone addressed these kinds of behaviors from the perspective of healthy/unhealthy breakups?

 

 

Anyone interested in collaborating on this topic?

 

 

Rebecca Harrington

 

 

 

 

 

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