Discussion List for campus-based and allied personnel working to end gender-based violence on campus.

[Sherri Salvione <>]

Good morning,

 

I sent this to Ms. Collier off-list, but hope it’s helpful to more who may be dealing with the same situation.

 

Ms. Collier,

 

One possibility is for him to become involved with or start a chapter of Men Can Stop Rape or another of the programs that exist to engage men and boys in ending violence against women.  Another is Mentors in Violence Prevention.

 

Have you heard of the film “The Mask You Live In” – a documentary produced by the same group that made “Miss Representation.”  We organized a community-wide screening during Domestic Violence Awareness Month here in Albany, NY.  We had a panel comprised of men who are working in organizations – on campus and off – dedicated to healthy masculinity, challenging entitlement, gender roles, etc.  It’s an impactful film.  Maybe the young man you mention would be willing to work with you and others on campus to organize a screening.  Here’s a link to the site:  http://therepresentationproject.org/film/the-mask-you-live-in/ They include information about related curriculum and even offer a step-by-step guide to host a screening.  The licensing fees are less for educational institutions and we were fortunate to have a group of colleges share in all costs to make our event happen.

 

Best,

Sherri

 

 

Sherri A. Salvione

Project Coordinator

Equinox Domestic Violence Services

95 Central Avenue

Albany, NY  12206

(518) 434-6135 ext 5368

24 Hour Domestic Violence Hotline (518) 432-7865

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From: Ellen Collier [mailto:]
Sent: Thursday, February 04, 2016 9:00 AM
To:
Subject: Working with perpetrators

 

Good morning all,

I have recently had a perpetrator (who was found guilty in the criminal system) approach me about wanting to "do something".  He wants to be able to contribute to addressing gender-based violence and expressed particular interest in wanting to share his story so other men got a "real life" example of toxic masculinity and how that can have such a violent outcome.

As a result of our conversations over the last few months, I do truly believe he wants to do something good, but I am struggling to identity what that "something" might be that does not also place survivors in an unsafe space.  We have a peer education program he applied for, but I could not select him due to his criminal record.  His case is easily looked up on the web and the last thing I want is for someone - anyone - to feel unsafe at one of our events or educational programs.

I supposed what I'm asking is if anyone has any suggestions on how to meaningfully engage this young man that could help with his continued growth while at the same time supporting the movement to end gender-based violence.  Any suggestions you have are appreciated!

Ellen

Ellen Lassiter Collier

Diversity & Community Involvement

Women's Resource Center Coordinator

340M Student Center

734.487.0364

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