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[Brett Sokolow <>]

Wade, while I do think your question is of importance to the sociological understanding of sexual violence, I'm usually not willing to let a panel even entertain post-assault details like that.  They aren't relevant to whether an assault was committed, just like a beaten spouse who stays in the relationship doesn't make it less likely they were being beaten by doing so.  That said, I recall there is some information on denial that covers it in Ledray's Recovering from Rape.  

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From: <Felty>, "Wade P." <>
Date: Monday, August 19, 2013 10:52 PM
To: "" <>
Subject: Survivors continuing relationship with attacker

Colleagues,

 

I want to thank all of your for your many very helpful responses to my request for information on the neurobiology of sexual assault. The works of Dr. Lisak (who I’ve heard in person and read a lot of) and Dr. Rachel Campbell (who I was not familiar with until many of you wrote in) are particularly helpful. I think I have a solid mound of information to give our Dean’s Sexual Conduct Review Board to help them understand memory problems and tonic immobility. If I haven’t thanked everyone personally, I am working on doing so.

 

The final piece I am interested in is something a few panel members have questioned me about, and which I do not have a scientific/psychiatric explanation at the moment but I have heard it is common response….what causes some victims to continue associating with their attacker? i.e. last year we had a victim talk about how she texted her attacker a few times, and they even went out on several dates, and she continued regular social contact right up to the days leading up to her disclosing to us. Is this a symptom of rape trauma syndrome? I know it is almost more understandable when they are intimate partner, but what about when they are mere acquaintances and the victim still seeks out contact with them (positive contact, not accusatory/angry contact). Some of my older faculty colleagues have trouble understanding this. I know it is a common response but I am trying to explain possible motivations.

 

Wade

 

 

Wade Felty

Wade Felty

Office of Residence Life & Housing and Judicial Affairs

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Randolph-Macon College

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