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[Robert Franklin <>]

 Read here for more info, it is a little different but . . .

http://www.snopes.com/inboxer/outrage/rape.htm it has the history, the sad
thing is how many webpages this is on as a risk reduction effort. Saw it
even on one site that stated "#1 With Solutions to High-Risk Workplace and
Security Issues!"


Bob


Robert L. Franklin, MS
Male Outreach Coordinator 
Division of Injury and Violence Prevention
Virginia Department of Health
109 Governor Street, 8th Floor
Richmond VA  23219
Phone: (804) 864-7739
Fax: (804) 864-7748

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 On Behalf Of S. Daniel Carter
Sent: Wednesday, October 31, 2007 12:36 PM
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Subject: FW: Through a Rapist's Eyes (No Joke)

The forwarded e-mail below titled "Through a Rapist's Eyes (No Joke)" was
received from a student who'd received it from another student and I was
wondering if anyone on the list was familiar with it or the original source?
This appears to be cobbled together from a number of internet postings of
questionable credibility and has been circulating for over a year but that
is about all I've been able to track down. Any insights would be
appreciated.

********************************
S. Daniel Carter
Senior Vice President
Security On Campus, Inc.
http://www.securityoncampus.org/
e-mail:

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  Through a Rapist's Eyes (No Joke)

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    A group o f rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what
they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:
   
    1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They
are most likely to go after a wo man with a ponytail, bun, braid or other
hairstyle that can easily be grabbed . They are also likely to go after a
woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets. 
   
    2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women
who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around
specifically to cut clothing.
   
    3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their
purse, or < B doing other activities while walking because they are
off-guard and can be easily overpowered.
   
    4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between
5:00a.m. and 8:30a. m.
   
    5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery
store parking lots. Number two: is office parking lots/garages.
Number three: is public restrooms.
   
    6) The thing about these men is tha t they are looking to grab a woman
and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry
about getting caught.
   
    7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a
3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
   
    8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged
because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after
you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.
   
    9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas , or
other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands. Keys
are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to t he attacker to
use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not
worth it.
   
    10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following
b ehind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or
stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question , like what time is
it, or make general small talk: 'I can't believe it is so cold out here,'
'we're in for a bad winter.' Now you've seen their face and could identify
them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.
   
    11) If someone is coming toward you , hold out your hands in front of
you and yell STOP or STAY BACK ! Most of the rapists this man talked to said
they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be
afraid to fight back . Again, they are looking for an EASY target. 
   
    12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it
and carries it with him wherever he goe s) , yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and
holding it out will be a deterrent.
   
    13) If someone grabs you , you can't beat them with st rength but you
can by outsmarting them If you are grabbed around the waist from behind,
pinch the attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and
armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD . One woman in a class
this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying
to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out
muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those
places as hard as you can stand it - it hurts.
   
    14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN . I know from a
particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is
extremely painful . You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him
want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is
that they want a woman who wil l not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing
trouble and he's out of there.
   
    15) W hen the guy puts his hands up to you , grab his first two fingers
and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on
them as possible . The instructor did it to me without using much pressure,
and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly. 
   
    16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of
your surroundings , take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd
behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!
   
   
    You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if
the guy really was trouble.
   
    1 . Tip from Tae Kwon Do : The elbow is the strongest point on your
body. If you are close enough to use it, do!
   
    2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans . If a robber as ks
for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM . Toss it away from
you...chances ar e that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse
than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER
DIRECTION!
   
    3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back
tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving
    like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has
saved lives.
   
    4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating,
working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.)
DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect
opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head,
and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS
AND LEAVE.
   
        a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE
OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into
anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in
the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail
out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote
location.
   
    b . A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot or parking
garage: 
   
    A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side
floor, and in the back seat.
   
    B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the
passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling
    them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their
cars. 
   
    C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the
passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you
may want to wa lk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to
wa lk you back out.
   
    IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than
dead.)
   
    6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs.
(Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot.
This is
    especially true at NIGHT!)
   
    7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS
RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times. And
even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ.
RUN, preferably in a zigzag pattern!
   
    8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP! It may get
you raped or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking,
well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting
women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked 'for help' into his
vehicle or with his vehic le, w hich is when he abduct ed his next victim.
   
    9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a
crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police
because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her
'Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.
    The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a
window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run
over. The policeman said, 'We already have a unit on the way, whatever you
do, DO NOT open the door.' He told her that they think a serial killer has a
baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking
that someone dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it , but
have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby's cries outside
their doors when they're home alone at night.
   
   
    Please pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying baby ----This
should be taken seriously because the Crying Baby theory was mentioned on
America's Most Wanted this past Saturday when they profiled the serial
killer in Louisiana.
   
   
 
 

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