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["Sue McCarthy" <>]

A good site for looking into the origins of internet/email stuff is
snopes.com.  Here is a link to that site and what they had on your inquiry.
http://www.snopes.com/crime/prevent/ninetips.asp
~Sue
-- 
Sue McCarthy, M.Ed.
Assistant Director
University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee
Women's Resource Center
414-229-2852
www.wrc.uwm.edu



On Oct 31, 2007 10:35 AM, S. Daniel Carter 
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wrote:

> The forwarded e-mail below titled "Through a Rapist's Eyes (No Joke)" was
> received from a student who'd received it from another student and I was
> wondering if anyone on the list was familiar with it or the original
> source?
> This appears to be cobbled together from a number of internet postings of
> questionable credibility and has been circulating for over a year but that
> is about all I've been able to track down. Any insights would be
> appreciated.
>
> ********************************
> S. Daniel Carter
> Senior Vice President
> Security On Campus, Inc.
> http://www.securityoncampus.org/
> e-mail:
>
> ------ Forwarded Message
>
>  Through a Rapist's Eyes (No Joke)
>
>  <>
>    A group o f rapists and date rapists in prison were
> interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are
> some interesting facts:
>
>    1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is
> hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a wo man with a ponytail,
> bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed . They are also
> likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not
> common targets.
>
>    2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look
> for women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry
> scissors around specifically to cut clothing.
>
>    3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching
> through their purse, or < B doing other activities while walking because
> they are off-guard and can be easily overpowered.
>
>    4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning,
> between 5:00a.m. and 8:30a. m.
>
>    5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is
> grocery store parking lots. Number two: is office parking lots/garages.
> Number three: is public restrooms.
>
>    6) The thing about these men is tha t they are looking to
> grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't
> have to worry about getting caught.
>
>    7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a
> 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
>
>    8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get
> discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize
> that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.
>
>    9) These men said they would not pick on women who have
> umbrellas , or other similar objects that can be used from a distance,
> in their hands. Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really
> close to t he attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to
> convince these guys you're not worth it.
>
>    10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone
> is following b ehind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an
> elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question ,
> like what time is it, or make general small talk: 'I can't believe it is
> so cold out here,' 'we're in for a bad winter.' Now you've seen their
> face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.
>
>    11) If someone is coming toward you , hold out your hands in
> front of you and yell STOP or STAY BACK ! Most of the rapists this man
> talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that
> she would not be afraid to fight back . Again, they are looking for an
> EASY target.
>
>    12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge
> advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goe s) , yell I HAVE
> PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
>
>    13) If someone grabs you , you can't beat them with st rength
> but you can by outsmarting them If you are grabbed around the waist from
> behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and
> armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD . One woman in a
> class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who
> was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin
> and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching
> yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it - it hurts.
>
>    14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN . I know
> from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's
> parts it is extremely painful . You might think that you'll anger the
> guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told
> our instructor is that they want a woman who wil l not cause a lot of
> trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out of there.
>
>    15) W hen the guy puts his hands up to you , grab his first
> two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure
> pushing down on them as possible . The instructor did it to me without
> using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles
> cracked audibly.
>
>    16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always
> be aware of your surroundings , take someone with you if you can and if
> you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!
>
>
>    You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much
> worse if the guy really was trouble.
>
>    1 . Tip from Tae Kwon Do : The elbow is the strongest point
> on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!
>
>    2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans . If a
> robber as ks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM . Toss
> it away from you...chances ar e that he is more interested in your
> wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN
> LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
>
>    3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out
> the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving
>    like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else
> will. This has saved lives.
>
>    4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after
> shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or
> making a list, etc.) DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you,
> and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger
> side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU
> GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.
>
>        a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO
> NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and
> speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If
> the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as
> the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find
> your body in a remote location.
>
>    b . A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot
> or parking garage:
>
>    A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the
> passenger side floor, and in the back seat.
>
>    B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from
> the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling
>    them into their vans while the women are attempting to get
> into their cars.
>
>    C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your
> vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat
> nearest your car, you may want to wa lk back into the mall, or work, and
> get a guard/policeman to wa lk you back out.
>
>    IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better
> paranoid than dead.)
>
>    6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs.
> (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot.
> This is
>    especially true at NIGHT!)
>
>    7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his
> control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4
> in 100 times. And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ.
> RUN, preferably in a zigzag pattern!
>
>    8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP! It
> may get you raped or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a
> good-looking, well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of
> unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked
> 'for help' into his vehicle or with his vehic le, w hich is when he
> abduct ed his next victim.
>
>    9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend
> heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called
> the police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police
> told her 'Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.
>    The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled
> near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and
> get run over. The policeman said, 'We already have a unit on the way,
> whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.' He told her that they think a
> serial killer has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of
> their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby. He said they have
> not verified it , but have had several calls by women saying that they
> hear baby's cries outside their doors when they're home alone at night.
>
>
>    Please pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying
> baby ----This should be taken seriously because the Crying Baby theory
> was mentioned on America's Most Wanted this past Saturday when they
> profiled the serial killer in Louisiana.
>
>
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