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[Mandolin Restivo <>]

Hello,

Thank you for being so open to suggestions. I also did not like the pledge 
name when I saw it, as it evokes men as heroes and women as people who need 
to be protected (even if the pledge is for everyone).

What about the "I Won't Be a Bystander Pledge" or " I am not a Bystander" it 
evokes an idea of accountability without heroism.  I am sure other people on 
this list have good ideas as well!
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Mandolin Restivo
Director of the Women's Center and Diversity Education Programs
Ramapo College of New Jersey
505 Ramapo Valley Road
Mahwah NJ 07430
phone: 201-684-7136
e-mail: 

fax: 201-825-0276
Women's Center 201-684-7468


---- Original message ----
>Date: Thu, 15 Feb 2007 14:26:12 -0600
>From: "Mike Domitrz" 
><>
>  
>Subject: RE: Sexual Assault Awareness Month  
>To: 
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>What name would you prefer?  We talked with many professionals and educators
>on campuses and in communities throughout the country before coming up with
>the name.  Your comment about "less about taking care of each other" is a
>surprise because we continue to hear from survivors who say this pledge is
>the most proactive they have seen at showing support for survivors.  Please
>keep in mind this pledge is based on Bystander Involvement and it stresses
>"I will inform all of my family, friends, and peers that if anyone ever
>sexually touches them without their consent, I will fully support them (from
>listening to helping them seek support from proper professionals). I will
>treat all survivors of sexual assault with my respect and admiration."
>
>I am asking these questions because we are always open to new suggestions.
>What would you prefer for the name to be?  What are your suggestions for
>changing the content?
>
>Sincerely,
>Mike Domitrz
>****************************************************
>Author, Speaker, and Executive Director of The Date Safe Project.  
>Creator of "Can I Kiss You?" program on consent & sexual assault.  
>www.canikissyou.com
>www.datesafeproject.org
>www.askingfirst.com - an interactive blog!!
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>-----Original Message-----
>From: 
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>[mailto:]
> On Behalf Of Abby Tassel
>Sent: Thursday, February 15, 2007 9:55 AM
>To: 
>
>Subject: RE: Sexual Assault Awareness Month
>
>I really, really don't want to not be supportive of something that is
>clearly meant to be, and probably is often, a positive initiative, but I
>kind of don't really like the name "Pledge to Protect".  It feels very
>patriarchal: less about taking care of each other, understanding how and
>when it is good to help and more about maintaining existing social
>structures.  Just a thought.
>Abby
>
>Abby Tassel
>Assistant Director
>WISE
>79 Hanover Street
>Lebanon, NH
>
>-----Original Message-----
>From: Mike Domitrz 
>[mailto:]
>Sent: Tuesday, February 13, 2007 3:47 PM
>To: 
>;
> 
>
>Subject: RE: Sexual Assault Awareness Month
>
>We know more and more campuses are utilizing the "Pledge to Protect" at
>www.pledge2protect.org (completely free of cost and easy to implement).
>>From the website, you download the 2 page form (1 page they take with 
>>them
>and 1 page they sign to leave with you).  You have everyone sign the pledge
>throughout campus and your local communiites.  Plus, each person signs the
>full pledge and then they also sign a heart on the 2nd page.  Then, you post
>all the signed hearts in specific locations on campus and/or in town.  If
>you utilize the "Pledge to Protect", all we ask is to let us know your
>results.
>
>Sincerely,
>Mike Domitrz
>****************************************************
>Author, Speaker, and Executive Director of The Date Safe Project.  
>Creator of "Can I Kiss You?" program on consent & sexual assault.  
>www.canikissyou.com
>www.datesafeproject.org
>www.askingfirst.com - an interactive blog!!
>
>
>
>
>
> 
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>-----Original Message-----
>From: 
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>[mailto:]
> On Behalf Of
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>Sent: Tuesday, February 13, 2007 2:25 PM
>To: 
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>Subject: Sexual Assault Awareness Month
>
>I am in intern at SUNY Fredonia's C.E.A.S.E. (Campus Education, Awareness,
>Support and Effect) program and I am looking to create new programs for
>Sexual Assault Awareness Month.   Some of Fredonia's other student groups
>already do programs such as Take Back the Night, but I was looking for some
>new, fresh programs that Fredonia has never seen before, such as the Denim
>Drive and Teal Ribbons, but does anyone else have any other suggesstions?
>I would greatly appreciate it, thanks!
> 
>-Justine Roth
>SUNY Fredonia
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