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[Rob Buelow <>]

A bit late to this thread, but wanted to offer "Trauma Stewardship: An everyday guide to caring for self while caring for others" by Laura van Dernoot Lipsky. I found this book very helpful in supporting my role professionally and personally with the survivors in my life.

"Working to make the world a more hopeful and sustainable place often means having to confront pain, suffering, crisis, and trauma head-on, day in and day out. Over months and years this takes an enormous emotional, psychological, and physical toll, one that we're often not even fully aware of until the day we feel like we just can't go on anymore. And our well-being and the work we're doing are too important to risk that happening. This book is for all those who notice that they are not the people they once were or who are being told that by their families, friends, colleagues, or pets. Laura van Dernoot Lipsky takes a deep and sympathetic look at the many ways the stress of dealing with trauma manifests itself: feelings of helplessness and hopelessness, diminished creativity, chronic exhaustion, cynicism, and a dozen more. To keep from being overwhelmed, we need to respond to suffering in a thoughtful, intentional way not by hardening our hearts or by internalizing others' struggles as our own but by developing a quality of compassionate presence. This is trauma stewardship. To help achieve this, Lipsky offers a variety of simple and profound practices, drawn from modern psychology and a range of spiritual traditions, that enable us to look carefully at our reactions and motivations and discover new sources of energy and renewal. She includes interviews with successful trauma stewards and even uses New Yorker cartoons to illustrate her points."

In peace,

Rob Buelow

On Tue, Aug 19, 2014 at 2:37 PM, Morey, Patricia L <> wrote:

The Illinois Coalition Against Sexual Assault has several excellent publications made available for downloading. I suggest the following: “How Can I Help?”; “Men Responding to Sexual Violence”; and “Parent Pamphlet” They are available here:

http://icasa.org/index.aspx?pageID=103

 

Patricia L. Morey

Assistant Dean; Director

Women’s Resources Center

217.333.3137

http://www.go.illinois.edu/wrc

 

Note: Privacy may not be guaranteed as email is not a secure means of communication. Concerns regarding confidential matters are best addressed by calling or visiting the Women's Resources Center.

 

 

From: Tom Schiff [mailto:]
Sent: Tuesday, August 19, 2014 1:10 PM
To: 'Otis McGresham';
Subject: RE: Secondary survivor support

 

If She Is Raped by Alan McEvoy and Jeff Brookings is pretty useful too.

 

 

From: Otis McGresham []
Sent: Tuesday, August 19, 2014 9:55 AM
To:
Subject: Secondary survivor support

 

Are any of you aware of a good self help book or reference guide tailored to supporting secondary secondary survivors, (those who are supporting survivors) of sexual assault. We are looking for something in supplement to a counseling referral.

 

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Otis McGresham 

Assistant Director for Interpersonal Violence Services

Women's Center

North Carolina State University

919-515-2012

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Robert Buelow 
Director, Partner Education
332 Congress St, 3rd Floor
Boston, MA 02210
P 781 726 6677 x154
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