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["Thompson, Stephen M." <>]

Hello

Regarding Bill O'Reilly, I agree that he was implicated in harassment.  On 
the other hand, I know of no one who is a more public advocate for children 
who have been targets of child rapists.  His work to bring light on judges 
that disregard the safety of children while minimizing offender sentencing 
has helped many children, and has helped states focus on Jessica's Law.  I do 
not know the details of the harassment, however, I have seen firsthand the 
results of his work on behalf of children.  For what its worth.

Steve

Stephen M. Thompson
Sexual Aggression Services Director
Central Michigan University
SAC 195
Mt. Pleasant, MI. 48859
Phone: 989-774-6677
Web:  www.stephenmthompson.com
Web:  www.sapa.cmich.edu


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Today's Topics:

   1. Support the "It Happened to Alexa Foundation" today
      (Ben Atherton-Zeman)
   2. I have to disagree with you here (Foubert, John)
   3. Ideas for SAAM? College Campus (Molly Ivy)
   4. Re: I have to disagree with you here (Michelle N. Issadore)
   5. very well put (Foubert, John)
   6. RE: [Prevent-Connect] Ideas for SAAM? College Campus
      (Lauren Sogor)


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Message: 1
Date: Wed, 18 Mar 2009 12:35:10 -0400
From: "Ben Atherton-Zeman" 
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Hello, friends!  If you have a second today, please write to the "It Happened 
To Alexa Foundation" at 
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  The Foundation supports rape survivors and their families - they pay for 
travel expenses during the litigation process.  

They are holding a fundraiser tomorrow in Palm Beach, Florida.  The keynote 
speaker they chose was Bill O'Reilly.  I know O'Reilly wouldn't be most of 
our first choices for keynote speaker, given many of his comments.  But an 
unfortunate thing has happened as a result of others' outrage.  

These fine folks who are trying to help victims are getting hammered.  Phone 
calls, emails, blogs are all slamming the Foundation as a result of their 
choice of keynote speaker.  I've just spoken with Foundation founder Stacey 
Branchini - she sounded very shaken.  She said the 1000 emails have included 
advocates who say she's betraying our movement, survivors and survivor's 
families who say she's betraying survivors.  Some of the emails have been 
threatening - others promise that busloads of folks from New York and New 
Jersey are headed down to Palm Beach to protest their fundraiser.  

I can't believe that our entire movement is willing to protest outside a 
fundraiser of one of our own groups!  I'm convinced that those who are coming 
down on a bus to protest their fundraiser do not speak for all of us.  So 
please take a moment and find out the work that the Foundation does: 
www.ithappenedtoalexa.org.  Please write them a brief email of support before 
their fundraiser tomorrow.  Stacey says they are getting huge amounts of 
"anti" emails and phone calls, and very few supportive ones.  I've organized 
fundraisers, as I'm sure many of you have - they are stressful enough without 
having to deal with this!

In addition, they've had to spend more money than anticipated paying for 
security, not to mention the staff time it's taken to deal with this tide of 
antipathy.  So if you feel moved to make a financial donation to the 
Foundation (which I am doing today), I'd personally appreciate that.  If you 
can't, at least take a moment to write them an email showing your support for 
their work to help rape victims.  

I am not writing this email on behalf of the Foundation.  I am writing as 
someone who cares about rape survivors and their advocates.  I am writing as 
Stacey Branchini's friend, and as her daughter Alexa's friend - also as Wendy 
Murphy's friend as she is another keynote speaker.  Whatever your feelings 
about O'Reilly, please give this foundation a shout of support at 

 - better yet, leave them a message at their office in New York State: 
716-754-9105.

Thanks so much!  

Until the violence stops, Ben.  
 
Ben Atherton-Zeman, Maynard, MA USA
Actor, Comedian, Feminist and Husband
Presenting a One-Man Play: "Voices of Men," http://www.voicesofmen.org ;(video 
clips available on the site)
Booking information: 978-897-3619
 
Quote of the Month: March, 2009: Women's History Month
"HIStory repeats itself until HERstory is told!"
- Nicole Blevins (who said she heard it in college - does anyone know the 
source?), Monroe, NC

Come to the Men Can Stop Rape conference in Washington, DC April 14-15: 
http://mencanstoprape.org/conference/

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Message: 2
Date: Wed, 18 Mar 2009 11:56:14 -0500
From: "Foubert, John" 
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Ben,

I have to disagree with you here.  This group already has a great keynote 
speaker with Wendy Murphy.  They don't need two keynote speakers for their 
fundraiser.  If you are friends with someone in their organization, in my 
view you should use that relationship with them to let them know that Bill 
O'Reilly is a bad choice of speakers for this event.  As I recall, wasn't he 
found guilty of sexual harassment not too long ago?  Please don't quote me on 
that as my memory could be faulty, but I'm fairly certain of it.  When well 
meaning organizations are making bad decisions, it is the role of more senior 
people in the movement to counsel them out of these bad decisions.  It 
reminds me of a recent incident where I became aware that a new group whose 
stated goal is to promote victim empowerment decided to hire a stripper for 
their fundraiser.  I counseled them repeatedly not to do so, showed them 
extensive research on the connections between stripping and violence against 
women, etc
 .  In the end, the organization rebuffed my attempts to educate them, but I 
tried.  I think this is another case where an immature organization doesn't 
understand what they are doing and needs help figuring out what to do.  They 
need to drop O'Reilly today, and if you have a relationship with them, they 
need you to tell them.

John

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Associate Professor and Program Coordinator
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Oklahoma State University
School of Educational Studies
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Message: 3
Date: Wed, 18 Mar 2009 10:08:53 -0500
From: "Molly Ivy" 
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With sexual assault awareness month quickly approaching, does anyone
have any ideas or suggestions for low-cost programs, booths, activities,
etc.,?

I bring the Silent Witness each fall?

 I work at a medium sized University, and aside from speaking in some of
the classes, I would like to do a couple of fresh, new activities, and
of course am working with limited funds.

 

Any ideas would be very appreciated.

 

Molly Ivy, LMSW

Counselor

ASU Counseling Center

870-972-2318



 



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Message: 4
Date: Wed, 18 Mar 2009 13:26:46 -0400
From: "Michelle N. Issadore" 
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Subject: Re: I have to disagree with you here
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Without inserting myself into a particular situation I know too little 
about, I would just like to encourage those with or without seniority or 
years of experience to step in respectfully when they see or hear 
something they feel isn't right. Mentors can be wonderful for this, but 
we all have our own unique contributions to make to the field and 
newcomers may have a different perspective to offer.

Best,
Michelle

Foubert, John wrote:
> Ben,
>
> I have to disagree with you here.  This group already has a great keynote 
> speaker with Wendy Murphy.  They don't need two keynote speakers for their 
> fundraiser.  If you are friends with someone in their organization, in my 
> view you should use that relationship with them to let them know that Bill 
> O'Reilly is a bad choice of speakers for this event.  As I recall, wasn't 
> he found guilty of sexual harassment not too long ago?  Please don't quote 
> me on that as my memory could be faulty, but I'm fairly certain of it.  
> When well meaning organizations are making bad decisions, it is the role of 
> more senior people in the movement to counsel them out of these bad 
> decisions.  It reminds me of a recent incident where I became aware that a 
> new group whose stated goal is to promote victim empowerment decided to 
> hire a stripper for their fundraiser.  I counseled them repeatedly not to 
> do so, showed them extensive research on the connections between stripping 
> and violence against women, e
 tc
>  .  In the end, the organization rebuffed my attempts to educate them, but 
> I tried.  I think this is another case where an immature organization 
> doesn't understand what they are doing and needs help figuring out what to 
> do.  They need to drop O'Reilly today, and if you have a relationship with 
> them, they need you to tell them.
>
> John
>
> **************************************
> John D. Foubert, Ph.D., LLC
> Associate Professor and Program Coordinator
> College Student Development Master's Degree Program
> Oklahoma State University
> School of Educational Studies
> 314 Willard Hall
> Stillwater, OK 74078
> (405) 744-1480
> (405) 744-7758 fax
> 
>
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-- 
Michelle N. Issadore
Assistant Director
Lehigh University Women?s Center
University Center, Room C201A
29 Trembley Drive 
Bethlehem, PA 18015


(610) 758-5808
(610) 758-6960 fax
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Message: 5
Date: Wed, 18 Mar 2009 12:43:24 -0500
From: "Foubert, John" 
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Michelle,

Very well put.  I apologize if I came across sounding as though only people 
involved in the movement for a long time should give out advice like this.  
In retrospect, I think those who have been in the movement for a long time 
(and how long "long time" is, I don't know) have a special responsibility to 
give out such advice.  HOWEVER, all of us should work together to speak with 
one voice to end violence against women and remind each other when a tactic 
is really outlandish.  I am very sorry if I implied that you or others 
shouldn't do so.  That is not at all what I meant to imply.  Thank you for 
bringing my omission to the forefront.



John

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John D. Foubert, Ph.D., LLC
Associate Professor and Program Coordinator
College Student Development Master's Degree Program
Oklahoma State University
School of Educational Studies
314 Willard Hall
Stillwater, OK 74078
(405) 744-1480
(405) 744-7758 fax




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Message: 6
Date: Thu, 19 Mar 2009 09:11:06 -0400
From: "Lauren Sogor" 
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Subject: RE: [Prevent-Connect] Ideas for SAAM? College Campus
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Hey Molly (and others),

The National Sexual Violence Resource Center has an online list of
suggested events/activities that would work for any setting (including
colleges). You can access the list here:
http://www.nsvrc.org/saam/resources/events. In terms of campus-specific
events, NSVRC will be focusing our 2010 SAAM campaign on campuses
exclusively, so we'll have more ideas to offer at that point as well.
Thus far, I have heard from schools that do a wide range of activities,
from prevention-focused workshops to Take Back the Night rallies. Two
things I can think of that might be different would be a flag campaign
(you'd have to purchase small flags, but they are fairly cheap) where
you set up X amount of flags on your school's quad, representing the #
of annual victims (VSDVAA's Red Flag Campaign
<http://www.theredflagcampaign.org/>  has this as one element of their
comprehensive campaign currently being done on VA college campuses), and
then have a nearby table to explain the activity to students. Another
idea would be to have some kind of hand stamp created that says "Got
consent?" or some other slogan/ your website, and work with local bars
to use the stamp at the door during the month of April (sidenote: you
might worry that this would only reach students who are 21+, but MANY
underage students sneak into college bars, at least in my experience).
Hope that helps!

 

A note to the list: if you do have other ideas to share with Molly and
the group, I'd love to be included on your email responses! I'll be
collecting suggestions all year for the 2010 campaign and appreciate the
input. Thank you!

Lauren

 

 

E. Lauren Sogor, MPH

Prevention Campaign Specialist


National Sexual Violence Resource Center

123 North Enola Drive, Enola, PA 17025

717.909.0710 x118

877.739.3895 Toll Free

 

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month!
Visit www.nsvrc.org/saam for more information and to get involved. 

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Subject: [Prevent-Connect] Ideas for SAAM? College Campus

 

 

With sexual assault awareness month quickly approaching, does anyone
have any ideas or suggestions for low-cost programs, booths, activities,
etc.,?

I bring the Silent Witness each fall?

 I work at a medium sized University, and aside from speaking in some of
the classes, I would like to do a couple of fresh, new activities, and
of course am working with limited funds.

 

Any ideas would be very appreciated.

 

Molly Ivy, LMSW

Counselor

ASU Counseling Center

870-972-2318


 
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