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I like this one narrated by Jean Kilbourne.

   
Title    Sexual harassment [videorecording] : building awareness on
campus / The Media Education Foundation.  
Publisher    Northhampton, MA : The Foundation, c1995.  
Physical Details    1 videocassette (23 min.) : sd., col. ; 1/2 in.  
Credits Note    Producer and writer, Jeffrey Graham.  
Performer Note    Host, Jean Kilbourne.  
Summary    This video discusses what sexual harassment is and ways
people can be made more aware of it in colleges and universities.
Educates both men and women with specific references to campus
relations.  
Technical Details    VHS.  

Lee LaDue
Asst. Director/Coordinator - Gender Violence 
Resource Office
St. Cloud State University Women's Center
720 4th Ave. S.
St. Cloud, MN 56301
320/308-3995

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   1. Re: SAPC Digest, Vol 641, Issue 1 
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   2. Gender & Sex Discrimination Video (Ross A Wantland)
   3. Re: Baby, It's Cold Outside (Christopher Kilmartin)
   4. Sexual Harassment video (Shari Pergricht)
   5. Re: Sexual Assault Education and Diversity (Jesica Berndt)
   6. RE: Sexual Assault Education and Diversity (Mike Domitrz)
   7. Re: Sexual Assault Education and Diversity (Robert L. Franklin)


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Date: Mon, 11 Dec 2006 13:45:48 -0500
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ben -- very interesting catch -- we're so passive, we don't even think
about what we're hearing and these "old romantic" songs can be horrible
-- thanks for sending -- and i've seen your great opeds -- time for
another on this issue?

i've always wanted  to rewrite the song "paradise by the dashboard
light" and have the lyrics reflect a responsible "negotiation" and
sexual resolution -- rather than the silly "i'll marry you if you let me
have sex with you" -- makes men seem like idiots more than anything but
the way it "sells" male behavior is harmful to both genders -- 

wendy


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Date: Mon, 11 Dec 2006 12:58:35 -0600
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Hey y'all,

   A colleague of mine is searching for a good video on gender/sex
discrimination in the workplace. Some top administrators at our
university are going to start training themselves (gasp!). So she was
looking for something quality to give them. Since the last video I saw
on this was for 9th graders, I thought maybe I'd ask y'all if you knew
of anything for workplace/adult interactions. Thanks in advance. You can
e-mail me at 

 if you have any suggestions. 

Peace,

Ross

 

_____________________________________

Ross A. Wantland

Coordinator of Sexual Assault Education

300 Student Services Bldg. (MC-306)

610 E. John St.

Champaign, IL 61820

217-333-3137

 



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Date: Mon, 11 Dec 2006 15:15:05 -0500
From: "Christopher Kilmartin" 
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and there are a few others: Every Breath you Take and The Street Where
You Live are stalking songs, and Bruce Springsteen's Fire ("you say you
don't want me, but you know you're a liar") is another acquaintance rape
song.

chris

Christopher Kilmartin, Ph.D.
Fulbright Distinguished Chair in Gender Studies
Klagenfurt, Austria, 2007
Professor of Psychology
University of Mary Washington
Fredericksburg, VA 22401
(540) 654-1562  FAX 540-654-1836

>>> "Ben Atherton-Zeman - Feminist,  Actor and Husband"
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 12/11/06 8:56 AM >>>
A colleague from Florida posted this to the Men Against Violence Yahoo
group - I hate the song and just heard it on Good Morning America last
week.  I play it during the beginning of my workshops on
consent/coercion - it puts a romantic spin on things like
drug-facilitated rape.

It seems that in our culture, if you use physical force to rape someone,
it's violent.  But if you use coercion and manipulation, and have a good
singing voice, it's romantic and sweet.  


A popular song during the holiday season promotes coercion. Baby it's
cold outside, a 
1949 Academy Award winning song, more recently remade by Jessica Simpson
and Nick 
Lachey is laden with coercion. See how may No's are said during the song
and how bad he 
is trying to convince her to "stay." 

I really can't stay 
(Baby, it's cold outside)
I've got to go away
(Baby, it's cold outside) 
This evening has been 
(Hoping that you'd drop in) 
So very nice 
(I'll hold your hands, they're cold as ice) 

My mother will start to worry 
(Beautiful, what's your hurry) 
My father will be pacing the floor 
(Listen to the fireplace roar)
So really, I'd better scurry 
(Beautiful, please don't worry) 
Maybe just one drink more 
(Put some records on, while I pour) 

The neighbors might think
(Baby, it's bad out there) 
Say, what's in this drink
(No cabs to be had out there) 
I wish I knew how 
(Your eyes are like starlight now) 
To break the spell 
(I'll take your hat, your hair looks swell)

I say no, no, no sir 
(Mind if I move in closer)
At least I'm gonna say that I tried 
(What's the use of hurting my pride) 
I really can't stay
(Baby, don't hold out) 
Baby, it's cold outside 

I simply must go 
(Baby, it's cold outside) 
The answer is no 
(Baby, it's cold outside) 
The welcome has been 
(Lucky that you dropped in) 
So nice and warm 
(Look out the window at that
storm) 

My sister will be suspicious 
(Gosh, your lips look delicious) 
My brother will be there at the door
(Waves upon a tropical shore) 
My maiden aunt's mind is vicious 
(Gosh, your lips are delicious) 
Maybe just a half a drink more 
(Never such a blizzard before)

I've got to get home 
(Baby, you'll freeze out there) 
Say, lend me a coat 
(It's up to your knees out there) 
You've really been grand
(I'm thrilled when you touch my hand) 
But don't you see 
(How can you do this thing to me)

There's bound to be talk tomorrow 
(Just think about my lifelong sorrow) 
At least there'll be plenty implied 
(If you caught pneumonia and died) 
I really can't stay 
(Get over that hold out) 
Baby, it's cold outside


Until the violence stops, Ben.  

Ben Atherton-Zeman, Acton MA USA
Actor, Comedian, Feminist and Husband
Presenting a One-Man Play: "Voices of Men," www.voicesofmen.org (video
clips take a second to load)
Booking information: 978-263-3254

December, 2006 quote: 
"...Calling me a 'stronger feminist than most women' is inaccurate and
very unfair to them.  Apples and oranges, basically.White adult
heterosexual men like myself are allowed to safely sidestep both the
experience of oppression and the grueling work of daily resistance. 
Yet, when a man chooses to publish a secondhand account of gender
injustice and violence, he gets automatic applause and is held up as an
icon of men's morality... When women.attempt to speak of their
experience and struggle firsthand, they are demonized or at least,
systematically censored.  Isn't that horribly unfair?"
- Martin Dufresne, Montreal Men Against Sexism
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Date: Mon, 11 Dec 2006 14:22:53 -0600
From: Shari Pergricht 
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Ross' request reminds me that we have been looking for a good video for 
educating college students on sexual harassment.  We have a really old
one 
that covers the topic well, but is so dated that it's sometimes a little

hard for students to take seriously.  There seem to be quite a few out 
there for high school students, but I have not been able to locate one
for 
college students.  If anyone has one that they like, preferably one that

focuses on the college campus and the workplace, please send the info my
way.

Thanks!


Shari Pergricht, Counselor, Professor
Student Development I117
Harper College
1200 W. Algonquin Rd.
Palatine, IL   60067
(847) 925-6393(V)  925-6674 (TTY)

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Date: Mon, 11 Dec 2006 23:13:23 -0500
From: "Jesica Berndt" 
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Dear List Members,

Next semester I am presenting a short workshop on supporting survivors
from diverse backgrounds. Do any of you know recent articles or web
resources on this topic? I am looking for specific ways to work with
people who may be underrepresented in the following ways:

1) Race
2) Ethnicity
3) Sexual Orientation
4) Gender Identity and Expression
5) Citizenship (international visitors and/or undocumented citizens)
6) Socioecnomic status
7) Religion/spirituality

If there are other areas not represented in this brief list please feel
free to pass along resources in those areas.

Thanks, Jes

Jesica A. Berndt

Graduate Assistant
Stafford/Swanson Living Centers
Housing and Residence Life

Secretary, Allies and Advocates
Co-Advisor, Eyes Wide Open
Co-Advisor, Residence Housing Association (RHA)

Work Phone: (616) 331-1902
Work AIM: Jes at GVSU



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Date: Mon, 11 Dec 2006 22:27:02 -0600
From: "Mike Domitrz" 
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Jesica:

What questions would you like to ask the survivors?  I would be happy to
share any questions you may have with the 12 survivors from "Voices of
Courage:  Inspiration from Survivors of Sexual Assault."  Several of the
survivors fit the profile you have described below (race, ethnicity,
sexual
orientation, and religion) and appreciate having the opportunity to make
a
positive impact.  These survivors have always enjoyed answering inquries
through our website at www.voicesofcourage.com and e-mails I receive
(and
then forward onto them).  Once you let me know the questions, I will
forward
them to the survivors and then they can reply to you directly.

Sincerely,
Mike Domitrz
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Author, Speaker, and Executive Director of The Date Safe Project.  
Creator of "Can I Kiss You?" program on consent & sexual assault.  
www.canikissyou.com
www.datesafeproject.org
www.voicesofcourage.com
www.mayikissyou.com
** www.doyouask.org ** -- Discover the powerful and thought-provoking
"Do
You Ask?" Poster Series.




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Dear List Members,

Next semester I am presenting a short workshop on supporting survivors
from
diverse backgrounds. Do any of you know recent articles or web resources
on
this topic? I am looking for specific ways to work with people who may
be
underrepresented in the following ways:

1) Race
2) Ethnicity
3) Sexual Orientation
4) Gender Identity and Expression
5) Citizenship (international visitors and/or undocumented citizens)
6) Socioecnomic status
7) Religion/spirituality

If there are other areas not represented in this brief list please feel
free
to pass along resources in those areas.

Thanks, Jes

Jesica A. Berndt

Graduate Assistant
Stafford/Swanson Living Centers
Housing and Residence Life

Secretary, Allies and Advocates
Co-Advisor, Eyes Wide Open
Co-Advisor, Residence Housing Association (RHA)

Work Phone: (616) 331-1902
Work AIM: Jes at GVSU

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Date: Tue, 12 Dec 2006 09:57:51 -0500
From: "Robert L. Franklin" 
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Jessica

While this is not about sexual assault survivors there may be a little 
of what you are looking for in this book by Sage Publications.

Family Violence in the United States 
Defining, Understanding, and Combating Abuse 

Authored by: Denise A. Hines  University of New Hampshire 
Kathleen Malley-Morrison  Boston University - School of Medicine 

http://www.sagepub.com/booksProdDesc.nav?
currTree=Subjects&level1=H00&prodId=Book226458

See chapter 9

9. Abuse in Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual/Transgender Relationships

also 
Chapter 2. Cultural Contexts of Family Violence   
 
Chapter 3. Cultural Contexts: Religion   
 
 Religion in the United States 
 Religious Affiliation and Religious Conservatism as Risk Factors for 
Family Violence  
 Positive Roles of Religion and Religiosity  
 The Response of Religious Institutions to Spousal Abuse  
 
 

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Description: 


Family aggression - whether in form of physical violence or verbal 
abuse - has touched most of us in our lifetime. Most of us have 
witnessed it, experienced it, or used it at one point or another. In 
order for us to eliminate aggressive and abusive behaviors from 
relationships, we must be willing to confront our own experiences with 
these behaviors.

Family Violence in the United States: Defining, Understanding, and 
Combating Abuse examines all types of family aggression. The book is 
designed to provoke readers into questioning assumptions, evaluating 
information, formulating hypotheses, and designing solutions to 
problems of family violence in the United States. Using an ecological 
framework, authors Denise A. Hines and Kathleen Malley-Morrison 
provide a thought-provoking and informative discussion not only of the 
most well-recognized forms of maltreatment in families, but also of 
less understood and more controversial issues such as husband abuse, 
parent abuse, and gay/lesbian abuse. 

Key Features


Includes full chapters on husband abuse and abuse in gay/lesbian 
relationships - topics scarcely covered in other texts 

Discusses "hidden forms" of family violence including wife rape, 
sibling abuse, parent abuse, and abuse of people with disabilities 

Uses real case studies to illustrate the concepts discussed and to 
provoke readers to think critically about issues in family violence 

Provides thought-provoking questions throughout the text to prompt 
readers to evaluate their own and others? notions of abuse and 
maltreatment 

Incorporates "Special Issues" sections to highlight new, and sometimes 
controversial, aspects of family violence 

Includes summary sections at the end of each chapter to serve as a 
useful study aid for students 

Concludes with a discussion of how we, as a society, are currently 
responding to the problem of family violence in the United States 

Rich in scholarly references and case materials, Family Violence in 
the United States is suitable for advanced undergraduate and graduate 
courses on family violence in the fields of Family Studies, Sociology, 
Social Work, Women?s Studies, Criminal Justice, Psychology, 
Counseling, and Nursing.


Robert L. Franklin, MS
Male Outreach Coordinator
Division of Injury and Violence Prevention
Virginia Department of Health
109 Governor Street, 8th Floor
Richmond VA  23219
Phone: (804) 864-7739
Fax: (804) 864-7748

email: 


web: http://www.menendingviolence.com
web: http://www.varapelaws.org
web: http://www.paramihija.com
web: http://www.vahealth.org/civp/sexualviolence




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