Discussion List for campus-based and allied personnel working to end gender-based violence on campus.

[Ben Atherton-Zeman <>]

Hey, friends!  Ms. published this blog yesterday – I’d love to know what you think, and would love more suggestions re: what we men can do to be respectful, aspiring allies to women re: online abuse, harassment. 

 

“…most men have remained silent, as we do with many forms of our gender’s violence against women. Many of us blame the victim, suggesting things women can do differently to ameliorate the problem. We tell women to grow a thicker skin, not to ‘feed the trolls’ and not to assume all men feel that way. Or we ride in on a white horse to ‘save’ the poor damsels by insulting the insulters or threatening violence against those who are threatening violence. This makes us feel better, but often does little to help the women being attacked or stop the violence from happening.”

 

“Ironically, when women call men out on our harassment, they are harassed even more. I wrote a Ms. blog about Tosh last year and it drew some criticism but mostly praise. But when feminist blogger Cristy Cardinal wrote about it she was threatened with rape and murder and her email and Twitter accounts were hacked.”

 

http://msmagazine.com/blog/2013/01/23/how-some-men-harass-women-online-and-what-other-men-can-do-to-stop-it/

 

Ben Atherton-Zeman: Feminist, actor, husband

Performing a one-man play “Voices of Men,” working to end sexual and domestic violence

Video clips available at http://www.voicesofmen.org