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[Jesica Berndt <>]

We have a few safe rooms here at Northern Illinois University. These rooms 
are held off-line in our assignments process and can be used for temporary 
stays in a variety of situations. 
   
  Situations involving harassment, sexual assault, and interpersonal violence 
can all warrant use of this room until a judicial process is completed, the 
threat has passed, or a more permament reassignment is decided.
   
  Please let me know if you need additional information. I am new to NIU but 
would be happy to call around if you have specific questions I cannot answer.
   
  Jes

       
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Hi All

We have a Safe Room/Shelter that was established last year.  We have =
found it necessary in Stalking,  Partner Violence situations, and for =
sexual assault survivors who are having problems with roommates.  =
Students may stay up to seven days.  Be sure you look into a  dining =
hall card, and parking permit.   An inexpensive way to establish one is =
to get a residence life guest room dedicated to this purpose.  I would =
suggest a ground floor room.  The only people who know the location are =
our advocates, Residence Life Directors and law enforcement. Our =
advocates are the only people who can put someone in the room. =20

Steve

Stephen M.=A0Thompson
Sexual Aggression Services Coordinator
Central Michigan University
SAC 195
Mt. Pleasant, MI. 48859
Phone: 989-774-6677
Web:=A0 www.stephenmthompson.com
Web:=A0 www.sapa.cmich.edu

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   1. Safe room (Jennifer Warwick)
   2. Re: Safe room (Juliette Grimmett)
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      (Ben Atherton-Zeman - Feminist,   Actor and Husband)


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Hi all,
Do any of your campuses have "safe rooms" that victimized students can=20
use for safety and privacy?  We are looking to implement this on our=20
campus and would like to hear how this works procedurally on other=20
campuses.  Thanks!

Jennifer

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I had the honor to work at the University of South Carolina in Columbia
in their sexual health and violence prevention program and they have an
alternative housing space like this.  They have a wonderful model
program that I highly recommend you look into.=20

Contact the director, tricia phaup, 

 for the history of
how this began and where they are now, and any other questions!

http://www.sa.sc.edu/shs/shvp/default.shtml





>>> Jennifer Warwick 
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Hi all,
Do any of your campuses have "safe rooms" that victimized students can=20
use for safety and privacy?  We are looking to implement this on our=20
campus and would like to hear how this works procedurally on other=20
campuses.  Thanks!

Jennifer


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Date: Tue, 4 Dec 2007 17:14:35 -0500
From: "Ben Atherton-Zeman - Feminist,   Actor and Husband"
        
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Check out this AWESOME column from our very own Michael Kimmel - the =
online version is at =
http://www.newsday.com:80/news/opinion/ny-opkim275477718nov27,0,7840147.s=
tory.
I wonder what kind of creative counter-chants we profeminist men and =
feminist women could do at Gate D when this kind of thing happens?  I'd =
be willing to come down to NYC for a Jets game (especially if they're =
playing the Patriots) to participate in some kind of counter-demo, =
especially if we sent out a press release beforehand to generate some =
coverage. =20

Maybe hold signs that say, "Show us your brains - respect women" to =
counter the chant of "Show us your t-ts"?  Or bring as many older women =
and men, or those of us who are a bit out of shape, and take off OUR =
shirts when they chant?  - Ben
Stop the anti-female chants at Jets games
  BY MICHAEL KIMMEL | Michael Kimmel, a professor of sociology at Stony =
Brook University, is the author of the forthcoming "Guyland: The Social =
World of Young Men, 16-26."=20
  November 27, 2007=20
I remember my first Jets game, in 1968. A grateful patient had given my =
father tickets for the game vs. the Cincinnati Bengals at Shea Stadium. =
The crowd was animated and boisterous, and I was thrilled to be part of =
that Super Bowl season. Today I ask myself if I would even consider =
taking my son to a Jets game.

Vicious harassment of women seems to be a regular halftime feature at =
Gate D of Giants Stadium. Instead of shouting "Let's go Jets," unruly =
male fans scream angrily and insistently at women to lift their shirts =
and show their breasts. If they don't comply, they're pelted with abuse =
or, worse, with empty beer bottles.

I don't think this ugly, degrading chanting is something that my son =
needs to see on his way to becoming a man.



According to news reports, it is so institutionalized that everyone =
around the stadium seems to know about it and security guards, charged =
with maintaining public safety, look the other way.

How did Gate D become such a gauntlet?

Make no mistake: The goons are not motivated by sexual attraction to the =
women they target. They're filled with contempt and anger.

Screaming at women to reveal their breasts is not supposed to attract =
women but to repel them, to send them scurrying back to their seats. =
It's a public humiliation that is designed to put women back in their =
place, to remind them that they may be on our turf, but it's still our =
turf, and that they are still "just women."

Which begs the question: Why are these Jets fans so angry that they'd =
want to make women feel so vulnerable? Here's a clue: This doesn't =
happen to all women. Not to the wives or mothers or daughters walking =
past with their husbands or fathers. Not to the women who prepare and =
serve the food and beer at the concessions. Not to the women who sell or =
take your tickets, or those who lead the cheers, or those who hand out =
the promotional giveaways. It happens to the women who have the temerity =
to believe that they have just as much of a right to watch a football =
game as a man does.

All across our society, women have entered every public space once =
thought inappropriate: from the corporate boardroom to the trading =
floor, from the operating theater to the theater of military operations, =
from the firehouse to the factory, and from soccer pitch to the hockey =
rink. Women are in the house - and the Senate.

One of my favorite book titles in recent years is "The Stronger Women =
Get the More Men Love Football" by Mariah Burton Nelson. A former =
Stanford basketball star, Nelson shows that football has become another =
"cave" into which men have angrily and defensively retreated as women =
have, in their eyes, "invaded" the sports world. The football stadium is =
one of the last treehouses, one of the last all-male clubhouses. Maybe =
what the Goons of Gate D are really showing us is: The more women love =
football, the angrier men get.

What lies underneath these guys' rage is not the presence of women, but =
the presence of women as equals - as fans who are equally entitled to =
enjoy a game at Giants Stadium. It's not women who get these guys so =
agitated. It's equality. And they need to be told, clearly and =
unequivocally, that being a fan at a football game is a privilege to be =
enjoyed by anyone.

These guys act like a pack of predatory animals because they know they =
can get away with it, because other guys don't stop them. The journalist =
who broke the story observed security guards watching the proceedings, =
having a smoke and doing nothing to stop it. In fact, when he asked =
about it, the guards threatened him with arrest.

When Patrick Aramini, New Jersey Sports & Exposition Authority vice =
president for security, parking and traffic, asks, "What do we do, =
arrest everybody that starts chanting?," you can tell he doesn't take =
this problem seriously. What if the men were all white and screaming =
racist epithets at blacks? Or yelling Nazi slogans to a bunch of =
Orthodox Jews? Would he be so passive?

Not likely. The Jets' management, security forces and fans all need to =
learn the simplest of lessons: The gridiron knows no gender - anyone can =
enjoy football. Aramini needs to station enough security guards at Gate =
D to stop the chanting immediately. And to arrest those who continue. Do =
it once, and you shouldn't have to do it again.

When they look the other way, at the orders of their supervisors, the =
security guards cease to be security guards. They're just guys, bonding =
with the drunken goons, enjoying the free halftime show. In doing so, =
they do more than collude, more than just enable and encourage. They =
stop doing their jobs. They become "insecurity" guards - fostering a =
lack of safety for some fans for the warped pleasure of others.

Of course, there are thousands upon thousands of male fans at every =
football stadium in the country who treat women with respect. And, of =
course, any rational person wouldn't be caught dead taunting women like =
that.

Let's hope that the Jets' management and the authority act quickly and =
decisively to penalize all the participants - the fans, the complicitous =
security guards and their supervisors - for unsportsmanlike conduct.


Until the violence stops, Ben. =20

Ben Atherton-Zeman, Acton MA USA
Actor, Comedian, Feminist and Husband
Presenting a One-Man Play: "Voices of Men," www.voicesofmen.org (video =
clips take a second to load)
Booking information: 978-263-3254

Quote of the Month, December 2007:
".those of us who are white and want to be a part of movements to change =
these systems and structures of power have to rein in our instincts to =
feel self-righteous and understand that in every human interaction there =
is the potential for connection and transcendence.We have to get angry, =
stay angry, but not let that anger swallow us.  We have to let our =
passion for justice fuel our work but also make sure it doesn't lead us =
to overlook our own flaws and failures." =20
- Robert Jensen, The Heart of Whiteness: Confronting Race, Racism, and =
White Privilege, p. 17.  City Lights Publishers, 2005
http://uts.cc.utexas.edu/~rjensen/index.html


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