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["Tom Schiff" <>]

Thanks for the heads up. I found the article on line. It is really 
disturbing, though not surprising, the level of victim blaming throughout 
the article. I am still trying to figure out what is "new" about this.

Tom Schiff, Ed.D.
Health Education
University Health Services
150 Infirmary Way
University of Massachusetts
Amherst, MA 01003


----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Juliette Grimmett" <>
To: <>; <>; 
<>
Sent: Monday, September 24, 2007 10:45 AM
Subject: Fwd: RE: [Men Against Violence] Cosmo's Special Report on "Gray 
Rape"


> excellent job!
>
> "It's so liberating and important for men to understand that they can
> actually be friendly to women instead of playing some gender-specific
> role, and that women are in most ways the same as they are. I think that
> lots of women already know that, but not so many guys do."  -my dad
> 8/3/07
>
> Juliette Grimmett, MPH
> Rape Prevention Education Coordinator
> NC State University
> Women's Center
> 3120 Talley Student Center
> Campus BOX 7306
> Raleigh, NC 27695-7306
> Office: (919) 513-3232
> 24 Hour Sexual Violence Hotline: (919)618-RAPE (7273)
> Fax: (919) 515-1066
> email: 
>
> website: http://www.ncsu.edu/womens_center
>
>
>
> > > > "Hotvedt, Carmen" 
> > > > <>
> > > >  9/24/2007 10:30 AM >>>
> Hey all:
>
>
>
> In case you hadn't seen this, a student at UW-Madison wrote a great
> opinion piece on the cosmo issue--and even got some national press for
> doing so!
>
>
>
> See her article here:
>
>
>
> http://www.dailycardinal.com/article/111
>
>
>
>
>
> Carmen Hotvedt, Violence Prevention Specialist
>
> University Health Services <http://www.uhs.wisc.edu/> , UW-Madison
>
> 608/265-5966
>
> ________________________________
>
> From: 
>
> [mailto:]
>  On Behalf Of
> jayteemoney44
> Sent: Thursday, September 20, 2007 10:56 PM
> To: 
>
> Subject: [Men Against Violence] Cosmo's Special Report on "Gray Rape"
>
>
>
> Hey,
>
> I just wanted to call everyone's attention to an article in the
> September issue of Cosmo
> called, "A New Kind of Date Rape."
>
> Essentially, it claims that a new classification of date rape has been
> established called
> "gray rape," which refers to "sex that falls somewhere between consent
> and denial and is
> even more confusing than date rape because often both parties are
> unsure of who wanted
> what" (p. 199).
>
> While the article does do a good job of highlighting some less-known
> facts about sexual
> assault, it is FULL of explicit or implied examples of victim blaming,
> it reinforces rape
> myths, and -- ironically -- leaves a lot "gray" for the reader to
> consider on their own.
> That last part really worries me, especially because many of the
> article's examples rely on
> high-profile, media-hyped rape cases that do not reflect the reality of
> what most survivors
> are experiencing or how the majority of rape cases are playing out in
> our legal system.
>
> So, I have seen other people on this listserv call on its members to
> write in to editors of
> publications to try to make a difference; by further clarifying points
> and/or generally
> educating the public with sound information. I feel that this is one
> opportunity that we
> cannot miss!
>
> To provide some context: This article was actually physically handed to
> me while I was
> giving a presentation on sexual assault to an audience of college
> women, who all
> exclaimed, "You HAVE to read this..." (almost as though it was really
> opening their eyes to
> something that explained everything they needed to know about rape).
>
> I look forward to reading others reactions to the article, as well as
> their suggestions for
> how we can move forward.
>
> Thanks!
> J.T. Newberry
>
>
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