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["Ben Atherton-Zeman - Feminist, Actor and Husband" <>]

Thanks, Brett, for saying what was on my mind - twice!

I am a huge fan of Sex Signals, partly because they dare to use humor and 
theatre to try and end sexual violence.  I am a fan because I've seen Sex 
Signals get past male defensiveness.  I am a fan for many other reasons - one 
of them is that I, too, have seen Christian and Gail accept criticism and 
incorporate it into their performance - they did so years ago, when I worked 
at a University and we brought them. 

No, it's not the ideal program for some.  That's why we're a broad-based 
movement - if you don't like Sex Signals, you invite someone else - Brett 
Sokolow would be a good choice.  We're even to the point where don't just 
have a variety of speakers on these issues, but a variety of artists and 
performers - you can invite "You the Man," www.addverbproductions.com, Rivka 
Solomon's "That Takes Ovaries," www.thattakesovaries.org, or visual artist 
Marta Sanchez www.poetryandart.org.  

I agree that it's a huge step to call "Sex Signals"s hard work "dangerous."  
Unless you mean "dangerous to the patriarchy."  :)  

Do folks agree that we tend to circle the wagons and shoot inward?  If so, 
why do folks think we are sometimes harder on our own folks within the 
movement than we are on rapists and batterers?  I'm curious as to what others 
think about this.  

Until the violence stops, Ben.  

Ben Atherton-Zeman, Acton MA USA
Actor, Comedian, Feminist and Husband
Presenting a One-Man Play: "Voices of Men," www.voicesofmen.org (video clips 
take a second to load)
Booking information: 978-263-3254

If I ever say anything smart or insightful, it's probably something taught to 
me by a woman.  If I ever do anything that makes a difference, it's probably 
because I was inspired by a woman's example.  
March is National Women's History (some say Herstory) Month - What women in 
your life do you admire?
Celebrate the month in your community: www.nwhp.org. 
And don't forget International Women's Day is March 8th: 
http://www.un.org/ecosocdev/geninfo/women/womday97.htm.
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I am sorry for using the word "dangerous"... I did not mean for it to come 
across as attacking - and I explained this to Brett in an email prior to him 
sending out this email. I am not intending to "shoot inward". As I explained 
to Brett previously, I was attempting to spur discussion.

I don't agree that it's OK to blame rape on miscommunication, but at the same 
time I think that communication is important to teach - it's crucial for 
healthy relationships.

I'm open to further discussion. I think we all need to learn from each other, 
and I've learned much from all of you.

Hannah Lindsay

----- Original Message -----
From: "Ben Atherton-Zeman - Feminist,   Actor and Husband" 
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Date: Sunday, March 4, 2007 4:48 pm
Subject: Circle those wagons!

> Thanks, Brett, for saying what was on my mind - twice!
>
> I am a huge fan of Sex Signals, partly because they dare to use
> humor and theatre to try and end sexual violence.  I am a fan
> because I've seen Sex Signals get past male defensiveness.  I am a
> fan for many other reasons - one of them is that I, too, have seen
> Christian and Gail accept criticism and incorporate it into their
> performance - they did so years ago, when I worked at a University
> and we brought them.
>
> No, it's not the ideal program for some.  That's why we're a broad-
> based movement - if you don't like Sex Signals, you invite someone
> else - Brett Sokolow would be a good choice.  We're even to the
> point where don't just have a variety of speakers on these issues,
> but a variety of artists and performers - you can invite "You the
> Man," www.addverbproductions.com, Rivka Solomon's "That Takes
> Ovaries," www.thattakesovaries.org, or visual artist Marta Sanchez
> www.poetryandart.org.
>
> I agree that it's a huge step to call "Sex Signals"s hard work
> "dangerous."  Unless you mean "dangerous to the patriarchy."  :)
>
> Do folks agree that we tend to circle the wagons and shoot inward?
> If so, why do folks think we are sometimes harder on our own
> folks within the movement than we are on rapists and batterers?
> I'm curious as to what others think about this.
>
> Until the violence stops, Ben.
>
> Ben Atherton-Zeman, Acton MA USA
> Actor, Comedian, Feminist and Husband
> Presenting a One-Man Play: "Voices of Men," www.voicesofmen.org
> (video clips take a second to load)
> Booking information: 978-263-3254
>
> If I ever say anything smart or insightful, it's probably
> something taught to me by a woman.  If I ever do anything that
> makes a difference, it's probably because I was inspired by a
> woman's example.
> March is National Women's History (some say Herstory) Month - What
> women in your life do you admire?
> Celebrate the month in your community: www.nwhp.org.
> And don't forget International Women's Day is March 8th:
> http://www.un.org/ecosocdev/geninfo/women/womday97.htm.
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