Discussion List for campus-based and allied personnel working to end gender-based violence on campus.

[Molly Dragiewicz <>]

In addition to the Men Can Stop Rape and Men Stopping Violence Resources, 
here are some rape prevention ideas for men from another list. Directed 
to/from Lakota men but clearly applicable to everyone.

A CHALLENGE TO MY BROTHERS
FROM A LAKOTA MAN

RAPE is a violent, selfish, degrading, and illegal act.  As a man, if your 
sister, mother, daughter, girlfriend, wife, niece, aunt, friend, co-worker, 
grandmother, daughter/niece of a friend, or close acquaintance is RAPED, 
you feel anger and compassion.  As a Lakota man, the RAPE of any woman 
should bring about the same feelings.  As a Lakota man, you should be 
working to make sure this problem in our communities is taken seriously by 
Tribal police and the Tribal Court.  You should take a stance to protect 
our women from some of us who have no respect for the sacredness of women 
and their rights to the security of their own bodies.  I challenge you to 
take that stand and have the courage to tell those of your Lakota brothers 
who need to be reminded that RAPE is not right and not the way of our 
people.  RAPE is a weapon that was used against our women by the wasicu. It 
is not our way.

For those who make inappropriate jokes about RAPE or feel that a woman is 
responsible for what happens to her, tell them that no woman asks to be 
RAPED.  Remind them that we as men can make women safe from RAPE by doing 
the following:
If a woman is drunk, don't rape her.
If a woman is walking alone at night, don't rape her.
If a woman is drugged and unconscious, don't rape her.
If a woman is wearing a short skirt or shorts, don't rape her.
If a woman is jogging in a park at 5 a.m., don't rape her.
If a woman looks like your ex-girlfriend you're still hung up on, don't 
rape her.
If a woman is asleep in her bed, don't rape her.
If a woman is asleep in your bed, don't rape her.
If a woman is doing her laundry, don't rape her.
If a woman is in a coma, don't rape her.
If a woman changes her mind in the middle of petting or sex, don't rape her.
If a woman has repeatedly refused a certain activity, don't rape her.
If a woman is not yet a woman, but a child, don't rape her.
If your girlfriend or wife is not in the mood, don't rape her.
If your step-daughter is watching TV, don't rape her.
If you break into a house and find a woman there, don't rape her.
If a woman smiles at you and walks out with you at the powwow, don’t rape her.
If you find a woman broke down along the highway, don’t rape her.
If your friend thinks it's okay to rape someone, tell him it's not, and 
he's not your friend.
If your friend tells you he raped someone, report him to the police.
If your friend or relative at the party tells you there's an unconscious 
woman upstairs and it's your turn, don't rape her. Call the police and tell 
the guy he's a rapist.
Tell your sons, god-sons, nephews, grandsons, and sons of friends, it's not 
okay to RAPE.   Don't imply that the woman could have avoided rape if only 
she'd done or not done something. Don't imply that it was in any way her 
fault.  Don't be silent when he boasts he "got some" while she was passed 
out.  Don't perpetuate a culture that tells you that men who RAPE have no 
control over or responsibility for their actions.

 Be A True Lakota Man – Speak Out About Rape

 George Twiss
Management Team
Cangleska, Inc.


Molly Dragiewicz
Visiting Assistant Professor
Women's and Gender Studies
Bucknell University

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