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In Jan. Mike Domitrz asked about resources for sexual assault survivors.
I pasted below a list of books I provide in a sexual assault advocacy
class that I teach.  Although I haven't read every one of them and can't
give a personal recommendation for each, I can speak to a few favorites
and point out a couple that I frequently use and why. 

 "Surviving Childhood Sexual Abuse by Ainscough and Toon has some very
useful exercises that I use both with individuals and in groups.  It was
recommended highly by a male survivor of child sexual abuse.  It is a
nice complement to the Courage to Heal books which I imagine everyone is
familiar with. Although these series of books are specifically designed
for child sexual abuse, many of the exercises can easily be adapted for
survivors of acquaintance rape or other kinds of rape occurring to
adults also. I also would recommend 

"Growing Beyond survival"  (#2 below)for survivors that are needing
skills to deal with panic attacks, flashbacks etc. before they can begin
some of the work in the other books.  

I also just ordered a new book I recommend for dealing with self-injury
and it is not listed below:  "Understanding Self-Injury:  A workbook for
Adults" Published by Pittsburgh Action Against Rape.  Finally, Wendy
Maltz book listed below of dealing with sexuality after sexual abuse has
been highly recommended by the college women I work with.  It really
gets at some deep issues in general but also helps people deal with how
their sexuality has been affected by abuse.

Hope this is helpful.  


BOOKS FOR SURVIVORS
1.      Growing Beyond Abuse- A workbook for survivors of sexual
exploitation of childhood sexual abuse
Signe l. Nestingen
Laurel Ruth Lewis
Omni Recovery Inc. P.O.Box 50033, Minneapolis MN, 55403
ISBN #0962870307

2.      Growing Beyond Survival- A Self-Help Toolkit for Managing
Traumatic Stress
Elizabeth G. Vermilyea
The Sidran Press, 200 E. Joppa Road, Suite 207, Baltimore, MD 21286
www.Sidran.org
(410)825888
ISBN # 1886968098

3.      Surviving Childhood Sexual Abuse Workbook- Practical Exercises
for working on problems resulting from childhood sexual abuse
                Carolyn Ainscough
                Kay Toon
                www.fisherbooks.com
                ISBN # 1555612903

4.      Surviving Childhood Sexual Abuse - Practical self-help for
adults who were sexually abused as children
                Carolyn Ainscough
                Kay Toon
                www.fisherbooks.com
                ISBN # 1555612253

5.      The Courage to Heal Workbook- For Women and Men Survivors of
Child Sexual Abuse
                Laura Davis
                P.O.Box 8503, Santa Cruz, CA, 95061-8503
                www.Harpercollins.com
                ISBN # 0060964375

6.      Getting Free- You can end abuse and take your life back
                  Ginny Nicarthy
                Seal Press
                P.O.Box 13, Seattle WA, 98111
ISBN # 0931188377

7.      You are not alone- Guide for battered women
Linda P. Rouse
Learning Publications INC. 
P.O.Box 1338, dept Q, Holmes Beach FL, 34218-1338
                1-800-222-1525, ext Q
                ISBN # 1556910886

8.      If you are raped- What every woman needs to know
                Kathryn m. Johnson
                Learning Publications Inc.
                5351 Gulf Drive, P.O.box 1338, Holmes Beach, FL,
34218-1338
                1-800-222-1525, ext Q
ISBN # 0918452724

9.      Healing the Trauma of Abuse- a woman's workbook
                Mary Ellen Copeland
                Maxine Harris
                        www.newharbinger.com
                ISBN # 1572241993

10.      I never called it rape
Robin Warshaw
Harper Collins Publishers Inc.
10 East 53rd Street, New York, NY, 10022
ISBN #0060925728

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FOR CONCENRNED PERSONS
1)      If She is Raped- A guidebook for Husbands, fathers and Male
Friends
                Alan W. McEvoy
                Jeff B. Brookings
                Learning Publications  INC. P.O.Box 1338, dept Q, Holmes
Beach FL, 34218-1338
                1-800-222-1525, ext Q
                ISBN # 1556910622


2)      The Verbally Abusive Relationship- How to recognize it and how
to respond
                Patrician Evans
                1-800-872-5627
                www.adamsmedia.com
                ISBN # 1558505822

3)      Trust After Trauma- A guide to relationships for survivors and
those who love them
                Aphrodite Matsakis
                New Harbinger Publications Inc,
                5674 Shattuck Avenue, Oakland, CA, 94609
                ISBN # 1572241012

4)      If He is Raped- A guidebook for Parents, Partners, Spouses and
Friends
                Alan McEvoy
                Debbie Rollo
                Jeff Brookings
                Learning Publications  INC. P.O.Box 1338, dept Q, Holmes
Beach FL, 34218-1338
                1-800-222-1525, ext Q
                ISBN # 1556911505

5)      Survivors and Partners- Healing the relationships of Sexual
Abuse Survivors
                Paul A. Hansen
                ISBN #0962996041

6)      Allies in healing- When the person you love was sexually abused
as a child
                Laura Davis
                ISBN # 0060968834

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Lee LaDue
Assistant Director/Coordinator of Sexual Assault Services
St. Cloud State University Women's Center
720 4th Ave. S.
St. Cloud, MN 56301



Today's Topics:

   1. Resources for sexual assault (Mike Domitrz (author & speaker))


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What books, organizations, and/or websites do you recommend for
survivors of
sexual assault?  If referring a book, please say "why" that book .  We
are
trying to put together the most comprehensive list possible (always
happy to
hear about resources we didn't know about previously).  Thank you.

Mike Domitrz  

-- Executive Director of "The DateSafe Project"
-- Author of "May I Kiss You?  A Candid Look at Dating, Communication,
Respect, & Sexual Assault Awareness"
-- "Can I Kiss You?  Dating, Communication, Respect & Sexual Assault
Awareness" for Students & Educators
-- Watch Video Online at www.domitrz.com
-- Toll-Free: (800) 329-9390
-- Website:  www.domitrz.com



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On the way into work this morning I got thinking. If such a high
percentage of sexual assaults on campus involve alcohol, have the
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social norms also seen a reduction in the number of sexual assaults?

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Does anyone have information on a drug with the street name
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